Monday, October 23

Dentists and Cabinets and Bugs, Oh my!

Blogging and heading for bed tonight! The low is supposed to be around 28. We haven't hooked up the propane to the HVAC yet, and the behemoth stove is still in exile in the basement, so it's gonna be a cold one tonight! (We're loving the beautiful days, but this cold snap at night caught us off guard. Thank heaven for space heaters!)

The checkups for the boys went fairly well. No plaque, no tartar, happy gums, clean tongues. Everything that is supposed to be receiving excellent attention and maintenance, is receiving excellent attention and maintenance (yay!) But they STILL all have new cavities! Every. Single. Child. (argh!) WHY is this happening? The dentist is very nice about it, but somehow he comes across as if he's saying, "You really suck at this, ya know." I *know* that's not what he means, but... *sigh* He's convinced it's a diet thing, now.

So we did the routine Q&A:
Do they drink a lot of juice?
Mmm, no. In the past six months, they've had juice maybe, MAYBE twice a week. If that.
Kool-Aid?
No, we don't even buy that. Or sodas. They have soda perhaps twice a month. When we eat out, we all drink water. When they're "thirsty", I give them water. We really drink a lot of water.
Sugar before bed, or drinks at bedtime?
Nope. Nothing passes those lips but water after their teeth are brushed.
Candy?
Unh-uh. I tried the chocolate chips with lessons thing, but that was more work than it was worth and lasted a whopping two days out of the past three years. So, um, no. We never eat taffy, and they don't eat caramels or nougats... (of course, I'll have to fess up on Wednesday that *I* eat all the caramels at night, while the children are sleeping. My diet is deplorable, but theirs is great!)
Processed foods like snack cakes and cookies?
Uh, wheat allergy means any cakes and cookies we do eat are homemade and generally free of a lot of the gunk. No high-fructose corn syrup. WAY less sugar than store-bought things.

Really, we're a LOT better than my mother was with me! *grin*

They're already little flossing maniacs. The teeth are clean, just... weak? We're going to add a third brushing to our daily routine: a light brushing with baking soda after lunch. And the boys readily agreed to a total moratorium on any and all junk food from now until their next checkups (although Zorak kindly mentioned certain upcoming holidays, so that will need to be renegotiated a bit). Perhaps that will work.

In the meantime, poor Smidge has a referral to a pediatric specialist. His front teeth overlap slightly on the edges, and the dentist said there is decay at each spot where the teeth rest against each other. He'd like to put crowns on all four front teeth. (I don't know that we're going to follow that recommendation. Figure we'll talk with the specialist first and go from there.) It breaks my heart, and we feel like absolute loser parents for this, but when we stand back and look objectively... we can't really find anything obvious that's causing it. Maybe we need to take them in for a blood workup? Would a blood serum calcium deficiency cause this kind of problem? Anybody else with good diet and hygiene still run into dental problems in their little ones?

After the lengthy visit, we hit the library, where we returned our books for the THIRD TIME IN A ROW without late fines! WOOHOO, we're on a roll! Maybe someday soon John will stop referring to our visits as "renting" books from the library. ;-) All stocked up for the week with some wonderful reads!

Then, as a treat for a day well-executed, we headed to Cook's Natural Science Museum. It's a little place, but just the right size when you're eight and six and three. Very friendly staff. Incredibly diverse collection. They have an historic mousetrap collection, insects from around the world, aquatic and regional critters... the ladies there were very knowledgable and shared tons of interesting information with the boys. The boys had a delightful time exploring the many hands-on exhibits and discussing the interesting, detailed displays. I think this will be one of our regular hot spots for a while. Good way to enjoy the afternoon.

We did meet with Patient Mr. Cabinet Guy. He's so... patient. He couldn't really answer our concern about putting the Swiss Army Cabinet against a wall. Said he's done it before, and hasn't heard any complaints, but acknowledged that people don't always complain to the salesman or managers when they're unhappy. He'd put in a few calls, but didn't get any satisfactory information. So, we'll have to swing by Lowe's (because Home Depot does not have any of the tall cabinets on display other than one lone, empty pantry) to see what's up with the angles and whether it's worth trying to make it fit. In case it's a no-go, though, Patient Mr. Cabinet Guy did help us design two other very feasible options, both of which would move the microwave from atop the fridge. Zorak's eyes twinkled, and he obviously preferred both of those options to the Swiss Army Cabinet. (Something about balancing scalding leftovers above your head with small children darting between your feet as if on a dare... makes him nervous.) So, we'll see. Like I told the boys, now Mommy and Daddy have to go sit and stare at one another until one of us comes up with an answer.

And Miss Emily? She was a TROOPER today. Granted, she passed out every time we got back in the car, so she was a little dazed for the first half hour at each stop. But she was just her normal, happy, clapping, giggling little self. She's like carrying around a ball of sunshine wherever we go. Gotta love that!

Well, I can't feel my fingers now, so I'm going to go before the typos get too bad to correct.

Kiss those babies!
~Dy

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

I got caught up on your blog today. I noticed you are washing baby boy clothes.... ummm.... why? Me and my mom are trying to figure out why. Someone else asked why, but as far as I can see, never got answered. Our guesses are... 1) you still call Smidge a baby, 2) you aren't telling us something, or 3) you are giving away your baby boy clothes. Did I miss something??

melissa said...

O.k, I am going to leave the whole "washing the baby boy clothes" thing alone. you poor gal you can't even do your laundry without raising a flury of excitement. ;-)

You and I must talk re. the whole dental thing. I've got 3 kids with the EXACT same hygeine and diets, but the boys teeth are horrible! Savannah has never had a cavity. HOWEVER. The boys' permanent teeth, have been much, much better that their baby ones.

Don't feel so bad, you're doing a good job!

Dy said...

You guys make me laugh! Hillary actually caught me on IM last night to confirm or deny rumors. :-) At the moment, I am washing baby boy clothes in order to share them with someone who's been blessed in the reverse order from us - beautiful little girls, and now a beautiful baby boy. However, that said, just watch - as soon as I get the boxes mailed... *shaking head*

On a funny note, though, I was kneading bread on Sunday and Zorak stood there, watching me. (I had to stand on Smidge's red step stool so I could get good kneading leverage.) Finally he said, "It's a good thing you're not pregnant, because that would be really awkward." Um, yeah... kinda like using a gas stove when pregnant (which he also though a wee bit humorous this last go 'round).

Dy

The Crib Chick said...

Dy, I posted about the reverse dental situation not too long ago; I often forget to brush, my kids brush once a day, don't floss...and not a single one has cavities. I'm convinced that it's ultimately a genetic thing.

Do you use flouridated toothpaste? I switch around, but the kids generally use one with flouride. Sorry, no advice, but I really don't think it's something you should beat yourself up about, since it sounds like you're taking *excellent* care of their teeth.

Dy said...

Thanks, Jill. I saw your post and secretly (or, maybe not so secretly) was hoping for the same end results. They generally use whatever's in the drawer - we have Crest, Colgate, and Tom's. They switch.

They can't use mine, which is a prescription toothpaste, for people who have a combination of bad genetics AND poor dental care. *cringe* But even Smidge looks at that tube and whispers, "Medicine. Not good for boys."

Thank you for the commiseration, and feedback. It probably is genetics. I was just hoping that any genetic input I had would be the strong bones or the excessively muscular frame... something that could be helpful to young men. (Now watch, poor Emily will end up with my muscles. LOL!)


Dy

Anonymous said...

Could it be something in, or not in, the water? I know fluoridated water isn't the answer, but since you've moved to a new place could there be missing minerals or extra minerals that are weakening the enamel?

Sheila said...

I have bad teeth. I inherited them. The women in my family have weak, bad teeth.
So I'm just going to commiserate with you.
I've gone a few years now with no new cavities so I am thrilled. I do however, have a spontaneous hole in one of my front teeth. No cavity, just a flaw in the enamel.

I think you're doing way more than most people. Way more than us anyway. Don't beat yourself up.

mere said...

Note to self: make a dentist appt. for the boys...soon! This whole discussion has me just a little freaked. They need to brush a lot more than they do!

mere

Emily said...

I think it is a genetic thing too. One of my sisters (I'll let you guess which one :) ) was riddled w/ cavities, while I and my other sister only had the occasional one. I think it's a lot like crooked teeth or alergies, some people have 'em some people don't.

As long as the kids are dressed and do not generally smell bad I don't think teeth should reflect on your parenting skills :)


Keep me posted on Smidge's situation. I have a feeling we are going to go through a similar thing with Walker. (He has not had his 1st dentist apt. yet. 4 seems to be the age of rationality in our family).

Bob and Claire said...

Yeah, I agree with the "bad genetics" voters. That's me too. I brush religously, etc., but I always get little cavities. I've heard some people have saliva that inhibits cavities (my husband), and some of us have saliva that breeds cavities, LOL! My dentist recommended that ACT mouthwash (well, I get the cheap Walmart off-brand). It has seemed to help me, and now Nathan and Luke swish with it sometimes too.